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Soul Transformation

God's Grace is Your Shield

Twenty-five years ago when I was studying to become a psychologist I had to practice leading counseling sessions in front of a one-way mirror. Behind the mirror was my professor, who was holding a clipboard to make notes on how well I offered empathy, made interpretations, and was helpful to the client. Huddled around the master counselor was my whole class of graduate students in training.

Everyone was watching me!

The client was an 18-year-old woman just starting out as a freshman in college. It had to be difficult for her to share her life story and emotional struggle with a “rookie” counselor and to do so in front of a whole class of onlookers! (That was the price she paid for a free therapy session.) But I was so anxious about having my performance scrutinized that I had trouble tuning into her situation – it’s no wonder I didn’t get very good marks from my professor!

When my professor gave me “constructive criticism” in front of the whole class (so they could learn at the same time) it was embarrassing. I felt like an awful therapist. I thought to myself, Who are you kidding? You don’t even know how to show good empathy, let alone guide the counseling session in a helpful way. Why are you wasting the best years of your life and tens of thousands of dollars to get a Ph.D.? Just give it up. Surely, you misunderstood God’s calling on your life and he has something else for you to do.

Self-Condemnation is the Real Problem

Do you ever criticize yourself like I did? Do you sometimes lapse into self-condemning thoughts that leave you feeling bad about yourself? Do you pressure yourself to do better so you won’t feel inadequate? Many people that talk with me are hard on themselves. That’s why its devastating and demoralizing when someone criticizes them – it’s two against none!

Sadly, even the loving affirmations from God that are throughout the Bible are rendered ineffective when we persist with putting harsh judgments and unrealistic expectations on ourselves. We need to learn how to put the Lord on the throne of our mind – instead of ourselves or another person – so that his words of love replace our self-condemnations.

I thank God that I didn’t quit studying to become a psychologist because I grew so much and have been blessed to serve as “Christ’s Ambassador” to people who are hurting or struggling. But I did change classrooms: I walked out of the one-way mirror room in which my own internal critic and other people had the power to demoralize me if I didn’t measure up to their standards and I walked into Christ’s classroom in which truth always comes with grace (John 1:14, 17).

I have found that the grace of God is the refuge I need – it heals me of self-condemnation and sets me free from being afraid of what people think of me. You see, grace is not just “unmerited favor” that solves our sin problem and gets us into heaven when we die. It’s the generous favor of God that we need every day and will need in heaven too. It’s God acting with us in our lives to do for us what we can’t do on our own. Grace should be like the air we breathe! Did you know that even if we had never sinned we would still need to rely on God’s grace?

David’s Shield is for You Too!

Praying Psalm 3 has helped me learn to rely on God’s grace in the same what that a soldier in battle relies on his shield. I often recite to myself and meditate on verse three of David’s Psalm:

You are a shield around me, O Lord; you bestow glory on me and lift up my head.

King David prayed Psalm 3 at the lowest time of his life. Absalom, David’s own son, slandered him throughout Israel and rallied support from tens of thousands of people to help him kill his father in order overthrow him and replace him as king.

But as a young man and then as an old man David submitted his life to the Sovereign Lord; he refused to kill King Saul or his son Absalom, even though they came after him with armies of soldiers, and he left their fate in God’s hands. So once again David ran for his life and hid in desert caves. He endured many hungry, sleepless nights laying on rocks. And many people lied about him, despised him, and assaulted him. His circumstances were terribly unfair and painful.

Looking at his circumstances David might have said, “The Lord has not been a good shield for me!” Indeed, people who have been mistreated often ask me, “If the Lord is a shield protecting me then why do I still get hurt? If he’s bestowing glory on me the why don’t I feel good about myself?”

But David had the opposite response – he didn’t conclude that God was mean or distant or uncaring. Instead, time and again he proclaimed that the Lord was his shield, his refuge and fortress. That’s because he learned to live not by sight, but by faith; he didn’t rely on his own natural abilities alone or depend on his visible circumstances, but instead he entrusted himself to the Lord and lived in terms of his invisible kingdom of grace and glory in his midst (2 Corinthians 5:7).

Yes, he was in awful circumstances, but more importantly he was in God’s kingdom, immersed in his grace. So David held his head high and he slept soundly at night (Psalm 3:3, 5).

It’s true for you and I too!

You are a shield around me, O Lord; you bestow glory on me and lift up my head (Psalm 3:3).

And as we live in the reality of God’s loving presence we can share this with others – even those who offend us.

Soul Transformation Resources

Use Your Christ Shield is a short meditation and prayer inspired by Psalm 3:3 that follows up on this devotional.

My meditations, pictures, and poems will help you to Pray the Psalms with Jesus.

Perfect Grace for Perfectionists will help you to be yourself in the wide open spaces of God’s unconditional love.

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William Gaultiere, Ph.D. is a Psychologist specializing in “Christian Soul Care” since 1986.  Bill and his wife Kristi (a Marriage and Family Therapist) have a donor-supported ministry to pastors and leaders called Soul Shepherding.  In counseling, spiritual mentoring, seminars, and retreats Bill and Kristi help people to connect deeply with Christ in ways that facilitate soul transformation. At Bill and Kristi’s webstie, SoulShepherding.org, you will find articles, prayers, and pictures to nourish your soul in God. 

William Gaultiere, Ph.D. ~ Soul Shepherding, 4000 Barranca Pkwy, Suite 250, Irvine, CA 92604 ~ http://www.soulshepherding.org/ ~ 949.262.3699 ~ or go to the Contact page on the Soul Shepherding website.

William Gaultiere, Ph.D. & Kristi Gaultiere, Psy.D. ~ http://www.soulshepherding.org


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# MY RESPONSE TO: God's Grace is Your Shield

Once again, another great article! :)
Left by Kassi <3 on Oct 08, 2010 3:50 PM

# RE: God's Grace is Your Shield

God`s Grace is Good and all the pain we go through will be gone by Faith. With "Faith in God" God`s Grace is Our shield.
Left by Ivosch on Mar 20, 2011 10:37 AM