What is your stance on Halloween? Do you feel your children should not participate in any Halloween activities?
Honestly, I have struggled with this holiday since year one of being a mom. I love the concept of dressing up, becoming a superhero or a princess for a day. As a child, I so looked forward to Halloween and finding that perfect costume. Mostly, I enjoyed the idea of carving pumpkins, making scare-crows and the excitement.
This year has been the hardest because my oldest, now almost nine, has been invited to more than one Halloween party. We went to a fall family fun fest, which said “family fun” on the brochure, but sadly zombies and chainsaw-toting ghouls jumped out of the woods during the hay ride. And they didn’t scream “family fun”. I felt horrible that I subjected my children to that nightmarish event. We huddled in the middle of the wagon praying it would end.
This is where I struggle… Why does Halloween have to be so scary? Why do we have to “out-scare” each other? And why does it have to be a holiday that causes us such stress as parents?
It is so hard to shelter our children from darkness these days. My daughters see and hear so much at school alone. Stores have displays that scare my four year old, leaving me answering questions about ghosts and other such haunts.
Some churches try to offer alternatives, such as “Trunk-or-Treats” or less scary and ghoulish fall focused events. Still, that does not mean our children are safe from Halloween fright.
My neighborhood alone is creepy. A sadistic display of hands coming out of graves and bloody body parts meet us every morning on our way to school.
I don’t remember such carnage in the Halloween displays I saw a youth. I don’t remember Halloween being about murder at all. Sure, there was that occasional house that over did it, but this now is the norm my kids see every fall.
So, parents and fellow believers, I am asking for your advice and your thoughts on Halloween. How do you shield your little ones?
When our children are surrounded by what seems to be the fright how do you keep in mind we must be careful what these little eyes and ears hear and see?
I have decided so far to stick with my pumpkin seed making and fall crafts. The only knives we see are to carve our happy little pumpkins; it just does not seem to do the “trick” though.
I am struggling big time. I want so badly to protect my children from darkness that I feel around every corner there is another battle to fight.
Can we ever protect them enough?
Short of staying inside and not shopping or venturing down the scary street I am at a loss.
What is your advice and what is it that bothers you most about Halloween?