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Breaking Free From Homosexuality

Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Sex!  So whose idea was it in the first place?  Our God Almighty is the expert on the subject because he is the one who created it. He made man and woman to be sexual beings and He wants us to enjoy this gift He has given us.

Sex is powerful and wonderful!  God knew this, so he set a parameter for healthy sexual intimacy. His parameter states that sex should be a very special and sacred love act between a husband and a wife. This boundary is not to inhibit us, but is to protect us and free us to enjoy sex to the fullest.    Sex is God’s wedding gift to a married couple.

If God created sex, then what’s the problem?  Satan is distorting and deceiving us about this precious gift God has given us. Satan is a liar and a deceiver.  Hear one of his many lies our society believes:  “It is my right to have sex with anyone I’m attracted to and/or care about.”  Lust, lack of self-control, and this right to be intimate with anybody, anytime is our societies’ idea of sexual freedom.

Where is this idea getting us? Our society is obsessed with sex.  Sexual sin is rampant and spreading like wild fire.  Our teens are having babies.  Sexual diseases are becoming a part of many people’s lives. Pre-marital sex and homosexuality is becoming the norm. Pornography is destroying marriages. Abortion is just another form of birth control.  God have mercy on us!  We have become so desensitized to our sexual sin.  Lies from the enemy are becoming destructive truths.  In fact, we are arrogantly saying it is up to each individual to have sex whenever and with whoever he/she wishes to.

Christians and non-Christians are being bound and mastered by their sexual desires. Sexual sin deadens one’s ears to hear God’s voice and hardens one’s heart to know His great love for us.  This is bondage not freedom. Satan is even attacking married couples and their sexual relationships.  Lot’s of couples are not even having sex and enjoying each other intimately. I think this so grieves our Father’s heart.

There is no hierarchy in sexual sin.  Sin is sin and it is destructive.  The intention of this blog is to open up a dialog about one specific area of sexual sin – homosexuality.  Please know there is no condemnation towards anyone struggling with this sexual sin.

My name is Sydney Johnson and at one point in my life, I was deceived and trapped in the homosexual lifestyle. Who am I you say?  I am your neighbor next door. Your brother or your sister and the list go on. My heart is to share my testimony, open up my life’s struggles, and answer questions in order to bring hope and freedom to those wrestling with this very tough issue. By the grace of my Lord and Savior, and the support of many loving friends, I am no longer a slave to my sexual desires. I want to encourage you to start your journey towards freedom in Christ by searching for Him and answers to your questions. You can hear His voice and know intimately His love for you in the midst of this struggle. 

So with all this said, let’s get those computers inputting your thoughts, ideas, and questions about homosexuality.  We must bring this subject out into the open and into the light or else the world; the flesh or the devil will dictate what we believe.  I am so excited about our upcoming exchanges.  God Bless you all!
 

Redeemed Hallelujah!

Sydney Johnson  

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# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

I have some friends whose son just came home from his first year of living away at college. He has just announced to his parents and family that he is gay. How can his parents help him? What can all parents do before their kids go off to college?
Left by sunset06 on Jun 25, 2008 6:16 AM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

Dear Sydney,

Congratulations and Hallelujah indeed! I am so thankful for your deliverance and I praise the Lord for you.

Kind regards!

Left by vmw7777777 on Jun 25, 2008 12:39 PM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

The first thing his parents can do is love him, unconditionally. Let him know that although they do not approve of his lifestyle they still love him and he is still there son.

Once the dust has settled from the initial shock of the news, engage him in dialogue, ask him questions about how he came to this conclusion. Are there things that have happened to him in his past that he has never mentioned, like experimentation, and incident with a male friend or relative. Pray for him ask God to open his mind and soften his heart to see the truth to the path he has chosen.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 25, 2008 2:56 PM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

I have worked with many men that live the homosexual life style, and without fail 1 of 2 incidences have occurred in their lives, they were exposed to sexual behavior against there will, or had a father they could not get approval and love from, no matter how hard they tried (this includes not having a father at all), and that yearning for male approval became confused during puberty at which time they began to question their own sexuality.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 25, 2008 2:57 PM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

I have a friend that in his mid-twenties told his parents he was a homosexual. He then spent the next 25 years living that lifestyle, mostly estranged from his family and especially his father. His father developed cancer later in life, and some months before he died his son confessed to him, that during his pre-teen and teen years, a close friend of his fathers had repeatedly raped him. His father’s friend owned a business and on the weekends he would send his son to work for his friend, when his son objected, begging him not to go, he would force him, because he thought he was just lazy, his father had no idea what was happening, and his son was to ashamed to tell him. He told his father that this experience is what led him to conclude he was homosexual.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 25, 2008 2:58 PM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

I am not saying that everyone that makes the decision to be homosexual has been raped or molested, however there is high incidence of this, and in my work I have not found anyone that did not fall into one or both of the circumstances I mentioned earlier. In either case when these things happen the enemy is always ready to send, someone into your loved ones lives to convince them there is nothing wrong with living a homosexual lifestyle, they will tell them how fun it is, how much freedom they will have. When in reality it is an empty, destructive, life with no happy ending. They never tell them that living this lifestyle will never lead to a monogamous relationship, or that their expected lifespan has now be cut to 50 years, that their risk for health problems and diseases skyrockets. That the emptiness they are trying to fill with sex will never be satisfied. There is only one way to fill that empty spot in your heart and spirit and that is with Jesus Christ.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 25, 2008 2:58 PM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

Lastly I would also tell your friends that they need to not compromise on not condoning their sons lifestyle. This means not bringing his partners to family gatherings, dinners, and such, because you love and accept him, you should not accept his lifestyle. This includes open conversations in front of small children or siblings who are very impressionable at young ages, especially if they look up to their older sibling or friend. If younger children are going to be affected it is the parents responsibility in an age appropriate manner to explain the change in their friend or brother.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 25, 2008 2:58 PM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

The more I hear of homosexuality the more I fear God and when He turns His wrath on this earth. When our country has turned its back on Him and His teachings we can expect anything to happen to our country. Not so much for the sin, but for the acceptance of the sin by our leaders. For example, same sex marriages, allowable same government benefits as man & wife, allowed to adopt children and rear them in such an environment. God does not wink at such practices. Read your Bible. You know He is charge of the elements and everything else on this earth. Remember how the people laughed and jeered at Noah when he tried to tell them of the rains that were forthcoming. Because it had never rained before they made all kinds of fun of him. Then when it really rained and there was no let-up, they begged to get into the ark and he closed the door just as God had instructed him to do. I tell you folks, you must read the Bible and learn what God will or will not tolerate. Homosexualism heads the list.
Left by milliemac on Jun 25, 2008 9:24 PM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

We should be wary of anyone who accepts sin, and that is what is happening when leaders our leaders start to openly condone, and accept a destructive and sinful lifestyle.
That is why it is so important for each one of us to vote our conscience. Removing leaders that will allow homosexual marriage, or encourage experimentation in teenagers (it is amazing in some schools in sex-education classes they actually teach that it is okay to experiment with a homosexual lifestyle). We as citizens should be outraged and allow our voices to be heard in the ballot box.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 26, 2008 10:12 AM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

Jesus taught us to love one another as He loved us, unconditionally. By no means do I condone the homosexuality or any sin. However we must accept people, as Jesus does, as they are. Many stay away from the church because of they think they have to fix themselves first. God on the other hand says Come as you are because you cannot fix yourself. We are all sinners, and fall short of the glory of God. If you really want to help someone struggling with sin, love them, so they see the love of God through you. The void in their heart they are trying to fill with their sin is a void only the love of the Father can fill through His Son Jesus Christ. We are meant to reflect Jesus to everyone. As it says in Romans 13:14 “Put on the Lord Jesus Christ”, we need to put on Jesus, put on our love, and let our light shine, this tells me that Jesus is not just an inward decision, but an outward one as well. Just as we put on our clothes for the world to see, we should put Jesus on us, for the world to see Him in us.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 26, 2008 11:01 AM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

When parents find out their children are struggling with the sin of homosexuality, it is devasting and overwhelming. My heart really goes out for the family and the child. In fact, Lord, in the name of Jesus, I ask you to comfort families in the midst of this struggle. Give them wisdom and discernment as to where to go to for help and support. I pray for a supernatural peace. Amen.
Left by SydneyJohnson on Jun 26, 2008 9:39 PM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

The worst thing parents can do is isolate and pull away from God and believers. There is no condemnation placed on you or your children. Parents, take your broken and crushed hearts to Jesus with skin on—friends, other family members, trained counselors, etc. Your personal relationship with Jesus and how you go after Him, will minister more to your child than you know. Seeing Jesus in you and others will draw them back to their Heavenly Father.
Left by SydneyJohnson on Jun 26, 2008 9:42 PM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

You can not change your child. It will be up to him or her to choose life with Jesus. Lay your son or daughter at the foot of the cross and leave them there. Then pray, pray, and pray without ceasing for their health and that they get so miserable their hearts turn back to the Healer. Ask questions and search for answers, not for your child, but for you. A good website to checkout is www.pfox.org. Please hear me, homosexuality is not the sin your child would have chosen, but through this struggle and pain all who want a deeper, personal relationship with Christ can find it. God Bless!
Left by SydneyJohnson on Jun 26, 2008 9:44 PM

# RE: Homosexuality...Let's Talk

I don’t think anyone ever sets out to sin, given the clear choice I think we all will chose to do what is right. Unfortunately we have an enemy who likes to muddy the waters, just like he did with Eve. The devil is a deceiver and lied to Eve, however in the end she new what was right and made the wrong choice. There is a lot of debate as to whether homosexuality is a choice, the bible is clear that all sin is a choice and the bible is clear about homosexuality and its practice. Right now more than ever the enemy is mudding the waters, in media the homosexual lifestyle is celebrated, in school it is taught to be acceptable – and that it is okay to experiment, in society we are told to accept it as mainstream. Each and every one of us has to make a decision to follow God or not, to sin or not it is always a choice. I am not saying the choice is an easy one. That is why we need the power that is given to us through the blood of Christ Jesus.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 27, 2008 10:09 AM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

I have struggled with pornography, and through Christ have overcome it, however the enemy is constantly working to tempt me. It is easily accessible, there is nothing wrong with looking at the human body, isn’t it natural, on and on he will go, until I take the authority that Jesus died to give me over him, and put a stop to it. That struggle started at a young age for me, and the devil always made sure it was available. This is the same for all sin, the devil tries until he finds a weakness, then he puts whomever he can to reinforce your sin in your life and always provides for your sinful behavior, whether sex, drugs, pornography, what ever it is he will, send a person to sin with you, and find a way to provide you with whatever you need. The devil likes to put blinders on us, and battles us in our minds.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 27, 2008 10:17 AM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

With homosexuality he will tell you that, “you were born this way”, “there is nothing wrong with it”, “everyone else is wrong”, all of these are lies. He will invariably send people into your life to reinforce what he is telling you, that “you need to experiment, to see if it is true”, “if you are this way it’s not your fault, how can something that is not your fault be wrong”. You need to find someone that you can trust, someone that is rooted in the word of God and a Christian that can counsel you. If you do not know anyone like this, then find a good Christian counselor. Be on guard the enemy works in a lot of places, test the people you choose, this is the test, if they tell you anything to encourage sin, then they are not of God.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 27, 2008 10:22 AM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Parents love your children, do not condemn them. Do not isolate them or turn into a bible thumper, and start quoting Leviticus. As Sydney says pray for your children, ask God to show them the way to help them during this struggle, ask Him to put the right people in their lives. Careful to not become complacent, the longer the struggle the more you will compromise on accepting the behavior, you must love your child who is struggling, but do not condone their sin. As I said earlier, do not accept having their partners over to meet them as though you were being introduced to a heterosexual boyfriend or girlfriend, or other behaviors that reinforce their behavior. Love your child, but do not approve of what they are doing. Remember if you try to force anything you will become a stumbling block to them, Romans 14:13 says “Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather determine this-- not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother's way.”
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 27, 2008 10:42 AM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Over the last 100 years, baby steps have gotten us to the dangerous place of legalizing same sex marriages. Think about it- sin desensitizes hearts. In 1973 abortion was legalized. Now this is a viable option for birth control. Pregnant teenagers have no problem coming to school with their ultrasounds. In fact we have schools for pregnant teens. Pre- marital sex is not an issue anymore. Hollywood has made it out to be glamorous. Our young people’s minds are being inundated with sexual images on the TV and in movies. Christians and non-Christians do not think twice about having pre-marital sex. See? Over the years we have made these sexual sins okay, so why not make homosexuality not so bad? As a nation we have slid right into Satan’s trap. We need to repent of all our sins and put God back in His rightful place. Our nation desperately needs “heart” surgery.
Left by SydneyJohnson on Jun 27, 2008 12:08 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

I am a teenager and have struggled with same sex attraction for years. Thank God I accepted Jesus while in middle school! I never would have had the strength, or even the desire to resist these attractions! But God led me to the knowledge that I do not have to fulfill these desires. It has been a long and difficult road but through the power of our Lord Jesus Christ I have stood strong. I have never had a good relationship with my father. Our interests are so different that I have never felt a bond with him. Even more so, in middle school a guy would always come and compliment what I was wearing and how I looked. Soon, he told me he loved me and asked me out. I didn't know what to do.
Left by fancyguppies14 on Jun 27, 2008 6:05 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Thank God I was saved at this point and God gave me the strength to refuse. He even went so far as to offer sex, but thank God I stood strong! I know I never could have resisted without Jesus! Finally, he started going out with a girl instead, so I guess that is proof that God will not allow us to be tempted more than we can handle; he always provides a way out. It has been a very long and difficult road and I still struggle in this area, but with Christ all things ARE possible, including resisting sexual sin. I hope my testimony encourages others who are struggling in this area.
Left by fancyguppies14 on Jun 27, 2008 6:09 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Keep it going there Sydney; the Lord is walking me through the exact same thing as He is you. I was gay for 10 years before I became born again. Be encouraged...it does get easier (Praise/Glory be to Him)!
Left by hernandezs1 on Jun 27, 2008 7:23 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

I find it revolting, how this world has so casually "accepted" homosexuallity as a lifestyle. It seems like everywhere you look, there is some form of gay activity going on. O tv, you have people standing up for gay organizations, like "glad"; activists who claim that if you dont accept it, your a homophobe or racist; programs that make it ok to "experiment" or even state governments allowing gay people to marry. I by no means condone hate crimes, and I know that this is all a ploy of spiritual warefare, but frankly I am tired of seeing it! To think that my children have to grow up to witness this dissolution, is scary. My heart bleeds for the deceived persons of this genre and this generation. I know that Christ is coming soon, and I pray that those who have been morally stripped of what sex/marriage should be, maybe through some horiffic event(s) will be freed from this. It is possible...just as Sydney has been! Praise the Lord for that! One more shiner for satan to endure!!!
Left by 6swindys on Jun 27, 2008 10:44 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

I think how to handle the situation is sujective upon the individual. How does he respond to you and others. I found that letting people go, love them and here's the biggy...PRAYER. Pray for them always. "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much."
James 5:15-17 King James
God is the only one that can change a persons heart. He will answer your prayers in His timing and in His way. We have to accept that and abide in faith, hope, and LOVE.
Left by magnanimous on Jun 27, 2008 10:47 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Our God is full of mercy and grace, and there is no sin that is too big for Him to forgive. However, as Christians all over the world, we should raise our voices through whatever godly avenues we find against leaders and public figures who condone and encourage sin. Here in Africa the influence of public figures from abroad especially in the entertainment industry has led to increase in homosexuality, and boldness to promote the same. We should protect our younger generations not only by monitoring the influeces we let into their lives, but also by talking openly about it and teaching them God's view on homosexuality and sin in general. Our God is faithful and just, and will heal our land if we humble ourselves and pray, and repent of our wicked ways, and repent also for those who are blinded to see the wrong they are doing.
Left by Watetu on Jun 29, 2008 12:58 AM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Dear Sydney,

I praise God that you were delivered from this unspeakable evil. However, we should always endeavor to obey Ephesians 5:12 which says,
"For it is a shame even to speak of those thing which are done of them in secret." This verse is instructing us to not even bring up homosexuality in our conversation.
One of the primary goals of the homosexual agenda is to get Christians to openly talk about homosexuality and defile their conversation. I am too close to doing that very thing right now, but I would like to help others avoid it.
Left by agneshead2 on Jun 29, 2008 5:40 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Thank you for your responses. It is very much appreciated. God bless everyone of you.
Left by sunset06 on Jun 30, 2008 6:41 AM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Know that you can be free totally free from your sin, any sin! For as it says in John 8:36, Whom the Son sets free is free indeed! I love the message left by fancyguppies14, you will be tempted, the enemy will send tempters to you, but God will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you can handle. So when the temptations come and they will, stay strong in the Lord, know His word and keep your faith, for it is a shield. Politically vote out leaders that promote the homosexual lifestyle, personally let the love of Jesus shine through you for those affected by it. Most of all fathers, men love your sons, be there for them show them authentic manhood, through your demonstration of being a servant to your Lord Jesus Christ. Jesus never abused His disciples, He washed their feet, he did not condemn them, but forgave them, he never asked what they can do for Him, instead He died to save them.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 30, 2008 11:51 AM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Fathers you are meant to be the leaders and priest in your home. You are not to be a dictator to rule with an iron fist, look to Jesus for your example. Hug your sons-Jesus did, Mark 9:36 “Taking a child, He set before them, and taking him into His arms”. Father’s beware because if you cause your son to sin Jesus says “But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depth of the sea." Do not argue with your children or lead them into debate with you as it says in Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord”. Men have a tendency to lead there homes as masters and not servants, a mans highest calling is to serve those in his ministry and your first ministry is your family.
Left by jcprice1 on Jun 30, 2008 12:32 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

I am married to a man who formerly lived the gay lifestyle, and I want to tell everyone that God does have the power to transform a person completely. Our marriage is rock solid and he is a fabulous husband and lover. He did not have a great role model from his father, and Satan simply knew where his weaknesses were when he was young and impressionable. But God can and will transform any man who desires to change. Homosexuality is just sin, like any other sin, and is terribly hard to give up. So the best advice I can offer is to pray for the person you know, and LOVE them with the love of God. That is NOT the same as "tolerance." But the true love of God is what heaps the coals on us to wash our sins away and melt our stubborn hearts. Give them to God and don't lose heart.
Left by stephmccorkle on Jun 30, 2008 5:11 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

I am a mom of 2 teenaged daughters who claim to be lesbians.I say "claim" because I do not accept the words leaving my lips as their truth.
It is very difficult .I read a book called "the Jezebel Spirit"& it truly gave insight to this spirit that attacks our children & convinces them of so many lies.For my situation I believe this is what is going on.
This spirit hates men,hates their authority,hates their relationship with God,etc......Then we as Christians like to tell homosexuals about Sodom & Gomorrah forgetting to add Ezekial 16:49 in there.Because then we have to face WE could be committing the other sins that it was destroyed for as well.Judgement is not for us lay at their feet because if all sin is equally sin then we each of course have done the same.
I choose to love them unconditionally & pray for their hearts & eyes to open to receive what is good & proper to God.
I can only pray I am handling this appropriately.My sopirit is not troubled by the way we handle this.
Left by wooten2991 on Jun 30, 2008 9:35 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Wooten2291, I support you, never accept those words, constantly speak reaffirming words of faith over them, like Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he (or she) should go, and when he (or she) is old he (or she) will not depart from it.” I support your decision to not condone their behavior, and to continue to love them unconditionally. To help you get to the root of this attack on your daughters, you may want to start by asking them, why they dislike men. It is either going to be a poor father figure, or abuse. I am being blunt with you so that you can be direct with your daughters. It is never easy to confront sin, but for your daughters you are going to have to ask them some tough questions. In my work I have never encountered a woman struggling in her sexual identity that the root problem was not caused by one of the two reasons I gave above. The only way to remove sin is to confront it. That is why we must confess it to our Heavenly Father, and to one another.
Left by jcprice1 on Jul 01, 2008 4:14 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Since they are teenagers you have a real chance of saving them years of torment from this “lifestyle”. When you begin to discuss this with them, do so individually. Be supportive and open to their answers, reinforce that there are no “bad” or “wrong” only “honest ones”. Prepare yourself for what you might hear. It is important that make these talks safe for your daughters to feel secure with you. They need to feel that you will not reject them, that you love them, that they can truly trust you. Let them know that they can have confidence in you, to not break their trust or reject them because you do not like what they are saying. Since you have two daughters careful of the genetic trap, there is no definitive evidence that there is a genetic link to being homosexual. There is something in common between them, that has led them to this lifestyle, and it is not their genetics.
Left by jcprice1 on Jul 01, 2008 4:21 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Sexuality is a learned behavior that begins at a very early age, some experts believe before the age of 3. By observing our parents interaction with each other and with those around them children pick up on the sexual overtones and undertones of how we interact with each other. From this they learn what is acceptable and what is not. What should be done in public and in private, what to do in front of Mommy and what not to do. They will observe how fathers treat mothers, and vice versa, they will also watch how parents treat other’s of the opposite sex. Fathers that let a lingering stare last to long, a young son will see this. Mothers that disrespect their husbands both openly and privately, daughters will begin to view men the way their mothers do.
Left by jcprice1 on Jul 01, 2008 4:31 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Fathers that have a chauvinistic attitude will teach sons to have the same attitude, and daughters will seek men with the same. Mothers that are overbearing and vindictive will have sons that find that type of woman attractive and daughters that will act the same. Worse of all is abuse, sexual abuse to a child (no matter the age) will teach them to hate their bodies and identity, they can respond by abusing themselves, tattoos, piercing, cutting, or rejecting their sexual identity. Some will over perform trying for positive attention or retreat and become loners. Do you ever remember a sharp turn in the personality of your children, one day they were open, friendly, outgoing, and seemingly overnight, they are recluse, purposely hurtful.
Left by jcprice1 on Jul 01, 2008 4:56 PM

# RE: Breaking Free from Homosexuality

This is not “just becoming a teenager”. Sure your children will want to flex their independent muscle as they grow up and mature. But direct open rebellion is not part of the path; there are underlying issues that need to be addressed. This does not begin to cover the wide gamut of behaviors and changes that can result from problems with sexual identity, it is a start. One of the most interesting commonalities I have noticed with both men and women when it comes to sexual identity issues is the lack of a good father in their lives. Men have got to start stepping up to the roles God has for them, and take authority over the enemy, stopping the attacks on our homes, our families, our wives, and most innocently our children.
Left by jcprice1 on Jul 01, 2008 4:59 PM

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To the mom who has two teenage daughters struggling. Be encouraged! I also have a sibling who was in the lifestyle. The key word is was. Both of us have returned to our heavenly father. Pray that God will put Christian people in their lives who will love them, but speak truth. Teenagers are becoming bold with their homosexuality. It is almost "cool" to gay. They need to know that change is possible. Your daughters may want to check out the website www.freetobeme.com. It is geared to youth struggling with unwanted same sex attractions. Parents, don't forget to get support also. This is a long, hard road to travel on your own.
Left by sydneyjohnson on Jul 01, 2008 8:51 PM

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Christians cannot remain silent about the hope that homosexuality can be overcome. On this blog,we have read about the victory a teenager had in high school. A man has been transformed and set free and is now in a strong marriage. Let's go back to Ephisians 5:10-14 "Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness,but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to mention what the diobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible, for it is the light that makes everything visible." If we do not lovingly expose the truth that homosexuality is a sin, and that Jesus' can set anyone who wants freedom from unwanted same sex feelings, then our silence may be interpreted as we(Christians) do not think change is possible or that we might even approve. We are denying people hope if we leave homosexuality out of our conversations. Do we(Christians) really believe deep down in our hearts that change is possible for those who want freedom?
Left by sydneyjohnson on Jul 01, 2008 9:30 PM

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I am absolutely sick of seeing gay men on TV. They are everywhere. I asked my brother who is a military man what he thought about this. He said Men rule the world and even in the media gay men are still going to be in control. I will not watch programs anymore that feature gay men. What is wrong with our society? I think women don't want men to be men and they have become passive. Then you have men that just act like jerks. Why can't a man be strong and kind? My brother is a strong man and a great father. He has 3 wonderful daughters. I have been struggling with this homosexuality issue for awhile. I hate the sin but how does God feel about me judging these people? After all he created them. If they are born feminine and feel the way they do why did He create them that way? I know some of these guys are just doing it for the sex and it is out of control. I guess all I can do is pray for the homosexuals that I know.
Left by Janet_50 on Jul 02, 2008 12:54 PM

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I work in an organization that has quite a number of gay women. At first, it was confusing, as I just didn't know how to relate, but God showed me that it is simply a matter of hating the sin, not the sinner. It seems that people here view the gay lifestyle as something to be admired. Being gay "is in," as it were. I've attended the commitment ceremonies, and read the theology, but when it's time to love people to Jesus, no special knowledge is needed. You just have to pray, trust the Lord to give you His wisdom, and tell them about a God who will deliver them from ALL their sins.
Left by oakridgeK on Jul 02, 2008 3:22 PM

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Sydney, first of all I thank you for your blog... My brother another thing that I want to share to encourage people to quit this life style is very simple. The word of God states: ´The wages of sin is death´. I was deceived to the same lie that you did as well, unfortunately the prophecy became real into my life and I became HIV+, death will be the price of my sin. But, I still have hope and I know that Lord will help me through!

Pray for me....
Left by gloocer on Jul 03, 2008 9:39 PM

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thank you for this blog. i have been praying about a confidential place of confession to help me w/ my sexually additive behaviors. i go to the internet and read letters & self gratify. this has lead to a couple of male w/ male acts. i want God's mercy and grace to forgive, heal and deliver me from these behaviors. again, thank you. Blessings to you in Jesus' Name.
Left by jkgns44 on Jul 07, 2008 11:49 AM

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there seems to be a # of opinions on WHY one is decieved into believing they are homosexual and I would like to hear from you WHY you believe you chose that lifestyle? I praise God you are free and using this to bring others to freedom!
Left by atledam on Jul 07, 2008 3:58 PM

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When I was young I have a homosexual tendency because of a lot of things that happened in my life. Never believe homosexuals when they say they believe their in a wrong body. That's a fat lie! God didn't make homosexuals, its just an excuse to justify their sinful lifestyle, but no one will admit it. Because just like them I used to be blinded and would rather rationalize it. I for one had bordered homosexuality and bisexuality. I didn't chose to be one, but being molested at home by 2 guys closely related to me. That spiraled down my perception of what is right and wrong. Then afterwards being seduced by a girl friend and ended up living a lie by having sexual acts behind closed doors from then on. I was a messed up individual inside while projecting a good girl outside. And all this started in my early teens. I'm so disgusted deep within but sin has caught me no way out. I'm so desperate then one day Jesus called me to Him literally in a street crusade. Hosanna in the highest, Jesus!
Left by 4given7x7 on Jul 08, 2008 8:21 AM

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Well sin is sin and homosexuality is sin just like unforgiveness,jealousy,anger etc.Same way we overcome the temptations by not living by our feelings but by the knowlegde of what is right according to God word same way we should tackle sexual sins including homosexuality....for example if my spouse hurts me....though i FEEL like keeping a grudge....i dont respond to that feeling cos i always remember the Word that says do not let the sun go down on ur anger and give the enemy the occasion for sin...
As long as we are in the world the FEELINGS to do the wrong stuff will always arise in the flesh...but thanks be to God in Christ we been empowered to live by the knowledge of what is right and not our FEELINGS.
As a little child growing up then i felt i should be a boy cause i had some scars on my legs wc i wasnt proud of.Well i grew up got over that.When i think back i laugh at myself; sadly if it had happened now, am sure there people who would have gladly led me astray.
Left by risssa on Jul 08, 2008 1:33 PM

# Breaking Free from Homosexuality

Hi

I am 24 and am really confused! I know that the gay lifestyle is wrong in the eyes of the Lord and want help getting out of it. My question is will you ever be free from it. I know I am born again, but the feelings of being attracted to the same sex wont go away. Why? Am I not trusting God enough? Please if you have any help for me!! I am desperate....
I dont wanna life like this and its making me sick just knowing that God hates me because of my sin. Pleas help....
Left by Farmboy4god on Jul 13, 2008 7:30 AM

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Sydney,

Let me tell you a little about myself. I am currently in my late 30's and have been living the gay lifestyle for about 8 years. I have never been sexually, physically or verbally abused. My father went to work Monday thru Friday and my mom was a stay at home mom. We ate dinner as a family, went on vacations as a family. I can relate to the T.V. show Leave it to Beaver. I basically had that life (although we were not as affluent as the Clevers). I have 3 brothers and they are not gay. I was always taught that homosexuality was wrong and resisted those feeling until I was 32. I do not fit into your 2 scenarios that you constructed. I know the lifestyle is wrong, I want to get out. Its a filthy disgusting empty lifestyle that celebrates "Pride". I find the majority of these people shallow, narcissistic and hateful. Although I have strong feelings against this lifestyle I am a victim of it and want to break free. What is a good first step?

Left by untouchableli on Jul 16, 2008 12:15 AM

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Farmboy4God, God does not hate you, God loves you! So much he sacrificed His Son to save you. Right now even through this forum God is working on you, to set you free from homosexual thoughts and feelings. I want to tell you, that through Christ Jesus you have the power to cast those thoughts away from you and out of your life. Recently I learned some gospel truth; "resist the devil, and he will flee from you” James 4:7. Whenever you catch those thoughts coming on and the resulting feelings immediately change the channel in your mind. I have struggled in the past with an addiction to pornography. Some of the most innocent circumstances the enemy will use to get me to focus on my sin. Seeing an advertisement on T.V. or in a magazine, the enemy will start to whisper wouldn’t you like to see that. When this happens I immediately recognize it, and change the channel, what I mean is I ignore the enemy (resist him) and change my focus to something else.
Left by jcprice1 on Jul 16, 2008 9:54 AM

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For instance I keep a small book with me at all times called “Gods promises for your every need” It is filled with verses from the bible of Gods reaffirming promises, His love for me. Just reading His word will make the enemy flee from you. The more you begin to resist and ignore the demons in your life the less they you will be tempted by them. God cannot stand to be in the presence of sin, and the opposite it true sin cannot stand to be in the presence of God. The word works please use it, get up in the morning and put on the whole amour of God Ephesians 6:10-18. Get into the word, Gods word is truth, and Jesus says in John 8:32 “and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.” God has the power to remove this from you instantly; this may not be His plan, He may be performing a work in you. Like the refiners fire (Malachi 3) He will refine you until He can see His reflection in you.
Left by jcprice1 on Jul 16, 2008 9:54 AM

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Our walk with God is like a triathlon, it requires endurance, strength, patience, and there will be different obstacles along the race. Don’t give up God is with you and for you, and “if God be for you, who can be against you?”(Romans 8:31). Your struggles are making you stronger, better equipped for the purpose God has for you. Finish your race, knowing that your Father is at the finish line with His arms wide open to receive you.
Left by jcprice1 on Jul 16, 2008 9:55 AM

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Young people don't let what these older guys say cut you down or make you feel like Jesus will treat you like a second class citizen. It's a lot easier to control your sexual desires when you get older, but please use your mind and your heart and be safe. An unrestrained lifestyle is very dangerous. We all have to deal with sin in our lives until the day we die, but never give up the good fight. Jesus loves you and me no matter what we are dealing with, now. We don't earn our way into His presence. It is by His Grace alone, so no matter what your station is in life, go to Church,study His Word and pray. He loves you just as much as He loves any of us and don't you believe any one that tells you anything different. The devil trys to seperate us from God's Love with sin, but God's Grace is much stronger than the sin in us. Have Faith and your spirit will connect with God's Spirit and you will know that these words are true. Be strong! Jesus really does love you just the way you are.
Left by jedribit on Jul 16, 2008 12:41 PM

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untouchableli, the first step is to pray, ask God for help, to send the right people to you, and put you in His purpose. Ask God to help you openly examine your heart. You may want to find a good christian counselor that can help you examine your life. Somewhere this sin has taken root in your life, if you want to be free find the root and tear it out. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Please read this other CBN blog, "Set Free from same sex attraction" http://blogs.cbn.com/homosexuality/archive/2008/07/10/set-free-from-same-sex-attraction.aspx
Know this most of all your Father loves you, no matter what you do, in His word he tells you over and over again, He loves you so much He sacrificed His Son for you so that you are always forgiven. His love is deeper than ocean, higher than the sky, and wider than the horizon. God the Father, the creator of the universe loves you, and approves you. Ask Him for His help and he will be there for you no matter what.
Left by jcprice1 on Jul 17, 2008 11:55 AM

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For everyone who still struggles with pornography and sexual sins although been saved. A lot of things trigger our senses. Such as internet, tv and magazines. We can't fight these struggles on our own, only when we learn to love Jesus more than ourselves. That's when our focus shifts towards Him and not on ourselves. I recommitted my life to Jesus. I soak in prayer, fast if you will, praying in the spirit until I felt in my spirit that I have a breakthrough. And the most we are more prone to struggle with this sin when our relationship/communication with God starts dwindling. Everyday claim out loud Galatians 2:20, "I AM CRUCIFIED WITH CHRIST; NEVERTHELESS I LIVE; YET NOT I, BUT CHRIST LIVETH IN ME: AND THE LIFE WHICH I NOW LIVE BY FAITH OF THE SON OF GOD, WHO LOVED, AND GAVE HIMSELF TO ME." Saturate your thoughts with God's Word and listen to christian radios, preachings. Don't give a foothold to the devil. See Matthew 5:6, 6:33 and 7:7,8.
Left by 4given7x7 on Jul 26, 2008 7:16 AM

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Fellow believers I got saved when I was 17 y.o and I noticed that as long as I'm hot for Jesus and my eyes is always on Him. That means doing Bible Study, praying, reading/listening to christian radios, music and preachings. Philippians 1:6, "BEING CONFIDENT OF THIS VERY THING, THAT HE WHICH HATH BEGUN A GOOD WORK IN YOU WILL PERFORM IT UNTIL THE DAY OF JESUS CHRIST". When you do the things that draws your whole being to Jesus, then you won't give a foothold to the devil, by not letting your mind to idle and wander. Fill your mind and heart with God's Word John 1:5, 10-14. If you fall get up and again I John 1:9. Take up your cross and follow Jesus.........
Left by 4given7x7 on Jul 26, 2008 7:33 AM

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Thank You blogers and author of this artical.I have been struggling with these sins of internet porn and "bi sexual"issues for many years.After years ,left to my own devises.I relized what a mess of things I have made of my life.I am thoughly ashamed of my PAST, and welcome the word and promises of the FATHER.I have learned thru your responses and wise words that ,Only i am in contol of my decsions.Over the past several mouths I have learned and have accepyed HIS word and i'm very gratful for the pwer of HIS guidance and truths.This morning I was looking for some answers and was led to this point here on this blog.You folks are truly doing the work of the LORD, and today i join you.. Thank you for the enlghtenment, you have strenghten me. GOD bless you all!
Left by seekandfindu on Jul 29, 2008 1:03 PM

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Thank you so much for sharing,Sydney and may God continue to bless you and keep you free. Many people focus on the sin of homosexuality, even those that are involved in other sexual sins like premarital sex,abortion,adultery,pornography. sin is sin and I hope and pray that these people that condemn so much the sin of homosexuality, will realize their own sin and find freedom through Christ the way that you have.
Left by dilyscole on Aug 02, 2008 10:05 AM

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Hi

I am greatful that someone had the courage to post this. Yes, it is a sin,but how how do we show unconditional love for those caught in this dreadful snare? I have never really acted on my same sex desires, as such, but have felt them, so as a born-again Christian,I feel like I can understand just a little bit. I am also a single mother who is living purely for God, but the devil certainly plays on my desire for intimacy and a mate. Had I not been a blood-bought child of God, I think my struggle would have been a lifestlye instead...
Left by CHIMES on Aug 12, 2008 3:22 PM

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Hey bloggers. I need to ask your forgiveness on not responding sooner. I am just reading some of your blogs today for the first time. I am sorry. I am new to blogging and I somehow missed them. Please be patient with me. Farmboy4god, God does not hate you at all. He sees your pain and His heart aches for you. Know that in your heart!! I have done alot of work emotionally and I carry what I call STOP cards in my pockett with bible verses. Some days I read those cards every hour. Some days the battle seems to ease off. It is a process for healing. A day by day, sometimes minute by minute process. Do not expect it to be quick. BUT, as you allow Jesus to heal you, the attraction loses it's control and power. You may at times still struggle, but with support from others and the strength Jesus will give you, you will overcome the unwanted attractions. Be encouraged! You are an overcomer!! God Bless!
Left by sydneyjohnson on Aug 14, 2008 3:19 PM

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I forgot to say I am female. I am a model and am considering giving up the career because the environment is conducive to sin. I am constantly confronted with same sex and opposite sex invitations to sin. Perversion has been in my life from as early as I can remember. I want to permanently be free and I wonder will it always be a hard fight for the rest of my life.
Left by changekatnow on Aug 16, 2008 4:58 AM

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You people just dont get it, do you? I am a gay man who was never sexually abused and who has always had a healthy relationship with my father. The idea that gayness is caused by sexual abuse and a distant father have been totally discarded and debunked by all reputable medical organizations. Since you are Christians who believe in magic instead of science Im not surprised at the ignorance dispalyed here.
Left by alexatheist on Aug 16, 2008 3:12 PM

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Alexatheist, it sounds as though your relationship with your heavenly Father is not very healthy. Homosexuality is a complicated behavior that does not stem only from sexual abuse and poor relationships, not one person knows all of the causes. However those two particular issues have not been “debunked” most reputable behaviorist and physiologist will concur that early childhood sexual experiences and parental relationships play a fundamental role in gender development, including homosexuality. The most important thing isn't how you got to be where you are, but where you are going to go from here? God doesn't care where you have been or what you have done, He cares about you now, and where you are going, your heavenly Father loves you deeply and wants a relationship with you as His son. It’s not magic or mystical, His love is real and His desire for your love is real. Leave the anger and bitterness of how people have treated you behind, Christians or not, and know that Jesus loves you.
Left by jcprice1 on Aug 19, 2008 11:24 AM

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changekatnow, you can and will be totally free. You do not have to give up your dream, you will have to change your enviroment. Temptation is everywhere our enemy see's to that. God will never let you be tempted beyond what you can handle. Stay strong you are fighting the "good fight of faith" I believe you can overcome this and lead a wonderful life, filled with joy, happiness, family, children, a loving husband, and Jesus. Don't give up!
Left by jcprice1 on Aug 19, 2008 11:28 AM

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alexatheist,you were not born this way. Please let me know what medical organizations have proven people are born gay. I will do some research also. I was not sexually abused,but both of my parental relationships were fractured due to tragic life circumstances and after that Satan went after my wounds. You did not ask for these feelings, but Jesus sees your pain. Ask Jesus to show Himself to you. Scream at Him and tell Him how you feel. There is not an equation that makes someone gay. We all have our own stories and brokeness. Jesus is real. He will not force Himself on you, but He is waiting to come into your heart if you ask Him to. He loves you deeply right now, this very moment. Thank you for being real with where you are. Being real is something Jesus wants all of us to be. Keep being real with Him and us. Jesus will honor your realness. God bless you and may He bring you peace.
Left by sydneyjohnson on Aug 19, 2008 9:18 PM

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My name is Paul, I am 16 and for as long as I can remember, have been attracted to the same sex. I was raised as a Christian, but because of my sexuality it has been hard for me to believe in God. A God who sends people like me--gays--to hell. I don't know what to do. I want to believe in a loving God...and I want to be set free from this...it's so hard because I never chose to be this way. I don't understand why it is a sin, if I never chose to be gay. Please help me. I don't want to go to hell.
Left by Paul on Jan 02, 2009 2:58 AM

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Paul I can really relate to your feeling you were born this way. I felt I was born this way and to me it was as natural to be gay as it was to be straight. I remember in a counceling session telling the councelor the only reason I am here is because the bible says this is sin. I do not "feel" like it is. God met me and He will meet you right where you are. The Lord revealed to me where I had been wounded at such a young age(inutero until 8 years of age)and where satan had taken every opportunity to fill my heart and head with lies. Paul, satan is a liar. I did not choose this struggle, but I am thankful now for it because I now know Jesus as a real, loving, personal Savior. Deep down you know it is not what is best for you and deep down you are longing for the love of your Heavenly Father. You will never find that love in another person-male or female. God sees your wounded heart and He wants to heal it. Reach out and up for help and ask Him to show you when you were hurt He luvs u
Left by Sydney Johnson on Jan 06, 2009 4:27 PM

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This is for Paul,age 16. Paul, I am a "straight" christian grandmother. I just read your comments,God bless you and love you! Please know I just had the most wonderful prayer for you. I prayed for a quietness and balance in your heart & mind & soul & that God will send a christian friend into your life to who can give you the guidance you are looking for. Paul, I don't know all the answers to lifes problems, the whys and why nots, but this I know Jesus said life is not easy, but be of good cheer He, the One who loves us and died for us, has over come this world and all the problems that come our way. It is not God's will for you or me or anyone to go to Hell, ever. That is our choice. But it sure sounds like you are a whole lot closer to God than you realize. Please stop struggling and let the Holy Spirit begin to minister to you. God bless you and love you, you are not a bad person and God has not thrown you away. I will keep you in my prayers. Big Hug from me to you, Karen
Left by karen on Jan 07, 2009 1:17 PM

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Dear Paul

I'm really glad you made contact with us and I want you to know that I have been where you're. And thinking I was born this way,thinking I could not live a life as any other man. You see we are all born and conceived in sin. And sin is sin; every man or woman is struggling with something and it take the same grace and power of God to deliver us by the Blood of our Savior Jesus. I'm so grateful reveal truth to me. Its not God who wants you in hell. Jesus came that you might have life and that more abundantly. Life is in Christ not homosexuality. The Lord has much better plans for your life Paul. I have been blessed to have family and ministry. Here are 2 ministries that has touched my wife and I;they also have web sites and youth divisions: Exodus Inernational and Desert Stream. Also we have literature here @ CBN that I can send. If you are comfortable send an address. Jesus Loves you so much Paul and I'm praying for you
Left by James on Jan 13, 2009 6:40 PM

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Thank God that he has feed you in Jesus name and He will free all those that continue in His word and know His truth.
Left by moneycometh on Apr 15, 2009 10:42 AM

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Sydney,
I am Christian.I watched an episode of the Tyra Banks show and they had a debate on homosexual marriage.The discussion was completely unproductive and the two sides ended up arguing with each other.The thing that concerned me about the show was that one of the gay audience members stood up and shared his experiences as a gay teen.He said that his father had tried to "beat the gay out of him" and then he was gay bashed by some of his peers and had to spend his birthday in the hospital.While in the hospital he was completely alone and he commented that no one came to visit him.I was completely crushed when I heard this poor young man crying while he said he didn't choose this life.I noticed you mentioned that you were hurt inutero to 8 years of age.I was hoping that you can explain what exactly happened to you that led you to live a homosexual life style.I have no gay friends and I am really trying to understand what is going on in the minds and hearts of gay people.
Left by Sonia on May 21, 2009 11:38 PM