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Disappointment Gives Way to Joy


A few Sundays ago, my pastor preached on the passage in Luke 1 where Zechariah is told by the angel Gabriel that his wife Elizabeth would have a child. This proclamation was surprising because Elizabeth and Zechariah were infertile and had been praying for a child for years. Now, past the normal age of child bearing, the couple was living in the reality of disappointment.

Most of us are can relate to barren places in our lives. We have experienced disappointment in a job, relationship, dream or health. Whether that disappointment is over a physical infertility or some other type of barren place, disappointment can easily settle into our hearts and minds. We can give up on our dreams and feel that time has passed us by.

Yet, in this biblical account, against all odds Elizabeth conceived and her desire was granted.

As we picked apart this passage, several points were made:

  1. Disappointment happens to good people.
  2. Don’t believe that just because you are getting older, life is passing you by and your dreams will not be fulfilled. Our later years can be times of great fulfillment. We don’t always understand the timing of God, but His timing is always best. 
  3. Like Zechariah, we must continue to pray and contend for the goodness of God. In Luke 1: 13, the angel tells Zechariah, “Your prayer has been heard”. Never doubt; God hears our prayers.
  4. Miracles happen.
  5. Great joy comes from God.

As the pastor talked about God wanting to bless us and give us the desires of our hearts, he warned us not to give in to the negativity that can surround disappointments. It is easy to think God forgets us or that we aren’t important to God when disappointment overshadows our thinking. However, God wants us to stand fast in prayer and believe for the desires of our hearts.

Luke 1:58 says that God showed great mercy to Elizabeth. God is still merciful today. He wants to show great mercy to us.

So if you are feeling barren in your life this Christmas, if you are living with disappointment, one of the messages of the Christmas story is that God wants to do something miraculous in your life. He delights in showing you great favor.

This Christmas season, don’t give in to negativity. Believe and pray. Wait for the miracle and experience the joy of the season.

Dr. Linda Mintle’s new book Letting Go of Worry is available online and in bookstores now. Visit her website at www.drlindahelps.com.

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# RE: Disappointment Gives Way to Joy

Dear Jesus,
My employer is in bankruptcy (American Airlines), my mariage is in turmoil (kicked out of the house and linving in my 28foot camper), my son, William abandonded me this year.. my daddy is having a cancer biopsy and I am in need of money!! But, somehow, this message spoke to me this morning-- and somehow, I am currently filled with total and complete peace:) I have honestly and sincerely searched my character and determend that I am in huge need of repentance in my life.. and that has been my focus for many weeks. Perhaps Father God has noticed, but... whatever has happended this morning.. maybe this essay spoke to me.. maybe Jesus is comforting me... who knows... but whatever triggered my total and complete peace ... PRAISE GOD and the LIVING AND RISEN CHRIST, Jesus... MY Lord and Savior!!! Thank YOU!!! AMEN!!
Left by jetflagship on Dec 23, 2011 6:17 AM