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Linda Mintle, Ph.D. is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author of 16 books, a national expert on family issues and the psychology of food and weight. She's an assistant professor in the department of pediatrics at Eastern Virginia Medical School, a national speaker, writer, and news contributor.

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Thursday, October 16, 2014

Five Reasons You May Have Fatal Attraction

Have you ever met someone, been attracted to that person, but later find that what attracted you now annoys you? Researchers call this type of shift in the relationship a “fatal attraction”. The very thing that drew you to that person becomes unattractive. Dr. Felmlee at Penn State University coined the phrase “fatal attraction” about two decades ago. She was interested in studying both the positive and negative side of traits that attract couples.

posted @ Thursday, October 16, 2014 5:57 PM | Feedback (0)

Thursday, October 02, 2014

10 Ways to Respond to a Depressed Family Member or Friend

Depression hits families and can be a silent killer. Yet, it still has a stigma despite the numbers of people who struggle with it. We don’t like to talk about depression mostly because we don’t know what to say or worry we might say the wrong thing. So we avoid or stay silent. Worse, we offer platitudes that make the depressed person feel even worse. It’s easy to say something like, “Snap out of it,” “Think of all the good things in your life,” or the classic, “Time heals all wounds.”

posted @ Thursday, October 02, 2014 5:35 PM | Feedback (0)

Friday, September 26, 2014

Depression: The Taboo Topic at Church

A few weeks ago, I posted on my Facebook page a question, “Is it easy to talk about depression in the church?” The overwhelming response to the question was, “No.” In fact, the church was the last place most people felt they could discuss the subject that affects 1 out of 10 people in our country. We need to do better. We need to understand what depression is all about.

posted @ Friday, September 26, 2014 10:20 AM | Feedback (0)

Friday, September 05, 2014

Building Love and Trust By Singing in the Church Choir!

Debbie was tired of feeling disconnected in her church. She fought hard against the gossip she often heard and tried to befriend people who were positive. Something was missing. She loved God, but her church experience fell flat. What she didn’t know was that a simple move like joining the choir could build positive emotions like trust, love and acceptance. Here is how that happens.

posted @ Friday, September 05, 2014 11:56 AM | Feedback (0)

Friday, August 08, 2014

Is Clutter Ruining Your Relationship?

It’s dinnertime, but you can’t really cook because there is so much clutter all over the kitchen. Or you tripped on your way out of the guest room because boxes and books are everywhere on the floor. Maybe your basement is starting to look like a hoarding episode on television.

posted @ Friday, August 08, 2014 2:49 PM | Feedback (0)

Friday, July 18, 2014

Pornography: A Lie of Freedom That Leads to Bondage

Not too long ago, I was waiting for a doctor’s appointment and flipped through a number of magazines. One article caught my eye. It was titled, “Why Men Love Porn.” In the article, Jake (whoever he was) advised women to not flip out over the use of porn by the men in their lives. According to Jake, porn can be an opportunity to “serve as a lighter fluid on the slow burn of monogamous relationships.’”

posted @ Friday, July 18, 2014 4:27 PM | Feedback (0)

Friday, July 11, 2014

High Conflict Couples Do Kid Damage

The weekend is here and mom and dad are at it again. It doesn’t seem to matter what they fight about, just that they constantly fight. Little Jill covers her ears. Billy runs under the table and tries to hide and Angie cries. Mom and Dad are screaming at each other and the kids are caught in the middle. They just want the fighting to stop.

posted @ Friday, July 11, 2014 3:00 PM | Feedback (0)

Friday, June 27, 2014

The Pain of Childhood Rejection

Most of us have had the painful experience of being rejected at one time or another in our lives. But when you are a child and that rejection is a regular experience, it creates low self-esteem and even behavior problems. When children are left out of activities with their peers, it is painful. No one likes to be the child that isn’t picked in P.E. or the one who didn’t get invited to a birthday party. Rejection is hard on kids and also on parents.

posted @ Friday, June 27, 2014 4:29 PM | Feedback (0)

Friday, June 20, 2014

Curtailing the Temper of a Strong Willed Child

A mom is embarrassed to tell me that her 18-month-old child has a temper and has been successful at getting her to give in to her demands. Her child is so strong willed that she feels exhausted trying to discipline her and ends up doing what the child wants. The mom knows this is not good, but can’t seem to break the cycle. When you have a strong willed child, you must take firm consistent action early on in life or the child will develop discipline problems. Act now or pay later!

posted @ Friday, June 20, 2014 1:43 PM | Feedback (0)

Friday, June 13, 2014

The Best Father's Day Gift

This Father’s Day, I am able to spend the weekend with my 93-year-old dad in Maine. As I was preparing for the trip, I tried to think of a great gift to take with me for his Father’s Day present. But what do you get a 93-year-old dad? Or for that matter, what do you get any dad?

posted @ Friday, June 13, 2014 5:01 PM | Feedback (0)