Friday, September 05, 2014
Debbie was tired of feeling disconnected in her church. She fought hard against the gossip she often heard and tried to befriend people who were positive. Something was missing. She loved God, but her church experience fell flat. What she didn’t know was that a simple move like joining the choir could build positive emotions like trust, love and acceptance. Here is how that happens.
Friday, August 08, 2014
It’s dinnertime, but you can’t really cook because there is so much clutter all over the kitchen. Or you tripped on your way out of the guest room because boxes and books are everywhere on the floor. Maybe your basement is starting to look like a hoarding episode on television.
Friday, July 18, 2014
Not too long ago, I was waiting for a doctor’s appointment and flipped through a number of magazines. One article caught my eye. It was titled, “Why Men Love Porn.” In the article, Jake (whoever he was) advised women to not flip out over the use of porn by the men in their lives. According to Jake, porn can be an opportunity to “serve as a lighter fluid on the slow burn of monogamous relationships.’”
Friday, July 11, 2014
The weekend is here and mom and dad are at it again. It doesn’t seem to matter what they fight about, just that they constantly fight. Little Jill covers her ears. Billy runs under the table and tries to hide and Angie cries. Mom and Dad are screaming at each other and the kids are caught in the middle. They just want the fighting to stop.
Friday, June 27, 2014
Most of us have had the painful experience of being rejected at one time or another in our lives. But when you are a child and that rejection is a regular experience, it creates low self-esteem and even behavior problems. When children are left out of activities with their peers, it is painful. No one likes to be the child that isn’t picked in P.E. or the one who didn’t get invited to a birthday party. Rejection is hard on kids and also on parents.
Friday, June 20, 2014
A mom is embarrassed to tell me that her 18-month-old child has a temper and has been successful at getting her to give in to her demands. Her child is so strong willed that she feels exhausted trying to discipline her and ends up doing what the child wants. The mom knows this is not good, but can’t seem to break the cycle. When you have a strong willed child, you must take firm consistent action early on in life or the child will develop discipline problems. Act now or pay later!
Friday, June 13, 2014
This Father’s Day, I am able to spend the weekend with my 93-year-old dad in Maine. As I was preparing for the trip, I tried to think of a great gift to take with me for his Father’s Day present. But what do you get a 93-year-old dad? Or for that matter, what do you get any dad?
Friday, May 09, 2014
Sunday is Mother’s Day and most of us will pay special attention to the mom in our lives. We will take her to dinner, buy her flowers, give her a sentimental card and lavish her with attention. As a mom, I am all in favor of this! But what about the other 364 days of the year?
Friday, April 25, 2014
We hear a lot these days about entitled children who seem to think they deserve more than they have and will act out to get what they want. One parent saw the seeds of this behavior early on in her child’s life and asked the question below. Maybe this will help you be intentional about entitlement in terms of early prevention.
Wednesday, April 23, 2014
It’s Good Friday and you may feel like you live your life in a perpetual Good Friday mode. Like the movie, Groundhog Day, it seems you are replaying the same horrible day over and over. Maybe you are fighting a health diagnosis and the news continues to be nothing but a bad report. Or maybe you have lost a, loved one and can’t pull yourself from grief. Perhaps you are going through an ugly divorce and wondering how your relationship became so negative and filled with contempt.