Friday, January 23, 2015
A mother, frustrated with her efforts to make her new family blend, writes this: "My 10-old-daughter refuses to talk to her new stepdad at meals and will not listen to him when he gives her directions. This is causing tension in our house. I have been divorced for three years and my daughter sees her father every weekend. She has made it clear that she doesn’t want my new husband around."
Friday, December 05, 2014
Forgive and love generously. Hard to do in the natural, right? Remember, as you choose to forgive, bless and do good, this does not mean you condone negative behavior, are minimizing hurt or denying problems. It means you have decided to follow the words of Christ and do what does not come naturally to most of us. Our model is Christ. He was despised, rejected, and abused. Yet, he had compassion and loved the unlovely. What a challenge!
Thursday, November 20, 2014
One of the questions I am often asked is about how much to help our kids when they struggle. Can we do too much and make it too easy for them to rely on us and not solve their own issues? The answer is YES! I am guilty of this myself at times. When this happens, I remind myself that I am not helping my kids cope if I fix their problems or excuse their behavior.
Friday, November 14, 2014
Persistence is a trait that most parents want to see developed in their children. When the assignment is difficult, we want to see our kids persist in their studies and do well. When the team is losing, we want a child who stays in the fight until time runs out. When faced with an assault on faith, we want a child who stands firm no matter what.
Friday, November 07, 2014
John was involved in a money scheme that ended with a significant fine and possible jail time. He feels bad because he was caught and knows he has hurt his wife and family. This is not John’s first time bending the rules to achieve an outcome. John is remorseful but not repentant.
Friday, October 24, 2014
Most of us want to do the right thing when it comes to raising our children. So what if I told you that your viewing habits concerning sex and violence in movies may be impacting your children in a negative way? The Annenberg Public Policy Center of the University of Pennsylvania conducted a study with 1,000 parents. In the study, parents were shown multiple clips of sex and violence from films. This repeated exposure led to more acceptance of both sex and violence in movies.
Thursday, October 16, 2014
Have you ever met someone, been attracted to that person, but later find that what attracted you now annoys you? Researchers call this type of shift in the relationship a “fatal attraction”. The very thing that drew you to that person becomes unattractive. Dr. Felmlee at Penn State University coined the phrase “fatal attraction” about two decades ago. She was interested in studying both the positive and negative side of traits that attract couples.
Thursday, October 02, 2014
Depression hits families and can be a silent killer. Yet, it still has a stigma despite the numbers of people who struggle with it. We don’t like to talk about depression mostly because we don’t know what to say or worry we might say the wrong thing. So we avoid or stay silent. Worse, we offer platitudes that make the depressed person feel even worse. It’s easy to say something like, “Snap out of it,” “Think of all the good things in your life,” or the classic, “Time heals all wounds.”
Friday, September 26, 2014
A few weeks ago, I posted on my Facebook page a question, “Is it easy to talk about depression in the church?” The overwhelming response to the question was, “No.” In fact, the church was the last place most people felt they could discuss the subject that affects 1 out of 10 people in our country. We need to do better. We need to understand what depression is all about.
Friday, September 05, 2014
Debbie was tired of feeling disconnected in her church. She fought hard against the gossip she often heard and tried to befriend people who were positive. Something was missing. She loved God, but her church experience fell flat. What she didn’t know was that a simple move like joining the choir could build positive emotions like trust, love and acceptance. Here is how that happens.