I could feel myself growing more tense as I listened to Deborah make excuse after excuse for her excessive spending during a recent Marriage Intensive. “I know I spend too much,” she said meekly, looking down. “But, you’ve got to admit that I’m getting better about it.” She looked to her husband, Chuck, for reassurance. He frowned at her. “What?” she questioned indignantly. “You know I’ve been getting better about my spending.”