When our feathers are ruffled and we’re on edge, finding the capacity to share critical information softly and slowly can be a huge challenge. Such was the case with a couple who came to The Marriage Recovery Center recently. Debra and Chal arrived under a cloud of tension. I could sense their discomfort with one another as they unloaded their luggage from their car. Chal seemed restless and irritable as he grabbed Debra’s bags.