I received a call yesterday from a 29 year-old woman who was in obvious distress. Married for seven years, she was inquiring about marriage counseling. “What is the problem?” I asked. “It’s hard to say exactly,” she said. “It’s just not what I want in a marriage.” Paula seemed unusually vague with her concerns. “How would you rate your marriage?” I asked. “I don’t know,” she said slowly.