I watched yet again as couple attending an intensive here at The Marriage Recovery Center clawed and fought for what they wanted from each other, all the while becoming more and more exhausted and discouraged. “Do you notice what is happening here?” I asked. Jill had tears in her eyes as her husband, Ted, stared at her angrily. Married for seven years, they had come here as a “last ditch effort”.
You don’t have to attend every fight to which you are invited. Think about it. People invite you to a fight everyday. Some do it brazenly: “That’s the dumbest thing anyone has ever said.” Some do it subtly: “What makes you think you’re doing it right?” The end result is the same: a fight. Whether someone stands nose to nose with you or perhaps very passively puts you down, the result is the same—a fight.