“I just can’t get over him,” Kendra said sadly, wiping tears from her eyes. “I especially can’t live with the fact that he is with that woman!” Kendra was having another challenging day, filled with the ups and downs that come with losing a mate. She came to counseling hoping I could help her digest something non-digestible.
“I’ve been tiptoeing around my husband for so long, I’m not sure I know how I feel anymore.” The woman’s statement caught me off guard. Was it possible to be such a people-pleaser that you could lose sight of how you felt about certain matters? Such seemed to be the case for Amanda, the 40-year-old woman who came to see me for counseling with her husband, Phil.
“I’ve been trying to get Jerry into counseling for years,” 30-year old Caroline recently shared with me. “We’ve been married 10 years and I’ve been unhappy for many of them.” “What are the issues?”, I asked. “Why have you been so unhappy?” “He is controlling, manipulative, and demanding. Things always have to be his way. I felt like I was dying in the marriage. But, I wanted to do the right thing and so stayed with him, hoping he would change.”