June 2011 Entries
Yesterday, I received a frantic call from one of my counseling clients. Cary’s wife of 15 years had left him 6 months earlier and he and I had been working tirelessly to save his marriage. “I got the bad news today,” he said, heaving with tears. “She said she doesn’t want to work on the marriage. She’s giving up. What do we do now?”
I received a phone call recently from a man in obvious distress. James shared how he needed help immediately. He was devastated that his long-term marriage was failing. “Tell me what’s going on,” I said. There was a long pause on the phone. “I don’t know where to start,” James said. “All I know is that I’m 48 years old, I’ve been married to Sandy for 48 years, and I’m miserable.”
The 30-something-year-old couple sitting in my office was having a good session. Jennifer had been sharing calmly about her need for her husband Tad, to spend less time with his friends and more time with her and their new daughter. He seemed to receive her requests easily. She spoke seriously, but with respect, and he seemed comfortable with her approach.
I received many responses to my recent post, “Why Women Leave and What Men Can Do about It”. This article seemed to strike a chord with many of you. With women leaving their marriages at phenomenal rates, I’m not surprised. Many men responded, indicating they had sought professional help in time to completely turn their marriages around. They were glad their wives had sounded the warning, alerting them to changes they needed to make in their marriage.