August 2010 Entries
“I am so angry with him,” Sarah said, glowering at Kyle, her husband of 12 years. Visibly shaking, Sarah continued. “He won’t listen, so I scream and raise my voice. I can’t help it.” “Any then she expects me to listen?” Kyle said hotly. “I knew I was going to get beat up on, and that’s why I was really reluctant to come to one of your Marriage Intensives.” Sarah was crying now, holding her face in her hands.
So, you’ve responded to the “wake-up call.” You’ve been a detached, disengaged mate, and your wife has said you must change or she’s leaving the marriage. You were so caught up in your own world; you honestly had no idea the immense impact you had on your mate.
When we get married, we understand we’re marrying not only our spouse, but their family as well. Though we have an intellectual understanding of this process, working out the details is often another matter. What do you do when your mate wants to spend more time with their family than with you? What do you do if your mother-in-law seems to have more influence over your mate than you do? These are horrific problems and can be incredibly divisive.
Who of us hasn’t gazed at a starlet or leading man on television or the cover of an entertainment magazine, and wondered what it would be like to be married to them? Even if you haven’t had such flighty dreams, perhaps you’ve been enamored with another couple, idealizing their life and devaluing your own.
R.E.S.P.E.C.T. is a lot more than a song belted out by Aretha Franklin. It is actually one of the most powerful concepts and principles for creating a healthy, biblical marriage. Consider what the Apostle Paul says about respect in Ephesians 5:25-33...