July 2010 Entries
Bad things happen to good people. For as much as we try, relationship problems still happen to the best of people. We can never fully control or manage how our mate will live their life, and let’s face it—how they choose to live their life impacts us. In spite of these difficulties, however, we never have to feel like a victim. We always have choices.
We read in the Genesis account of Creation that it was not good for man to be alone, and so God created woman “to be a help mate” for man. And so, marriage was established for humankind’s pleasure. God wants good things for His children, and that includes marital intimacy.
The Apostle Paul offers many clear images of how we are to treat our mate—always in a respectful and loving way.
You have many choices in life: you can choose where you live, where you work, the church you attend, what you eat, and what you watch on television. But, you can’t choose your mate’s friends—as much as you might like to do so. For as much as your mate’s friends impact you, it might be nice to have some say in whom your mate chooses for their friends. But, this is rarely the case.
Stability is absolutely mandatory for a child to grow into a healthy adult, and absolutely necessary for us as adults to continue growing to be happy and healthy. We were not made to thrive in chaos—a continual state of disorder. And yet many seem to think their marriage can survive in a chaotic relationship. It just doesn’t work.