January 2010 Entries
There is nothing quite as attractive as self-confidence. On the other hand, there is little quite as ugly as arrogance. Self-confident people tell you how they feel and what they think, while respecting your point of view. They never coerce you into thinking the way they think or feeling the way they feel. Self-confident people have good boundaries, understanding we are all different.
A recent Marriage Intensive began typically—filled with hope, optimism, and encouragement. Having had several failed counseling experiences in their hometown, this 40-year old couple was desperate for a positive experience, as they worked to end their cycle of fighting, distance, and disconnection.
I recently worked intensively with a young couple, Stu and Carrie, who are separated and trying to repair their marriage. After years of conflict, with little resolution, Carrie decided she finally had to leave Stu. I listened as she shared why she had left. Stu sat quietly, appearing sad and withdrawn as she told her story.