Even as I take in the wonders of the changing seasons, I sigh and breathe in the cool, crisp fall scents feeling suddenly unsettled. Why am I anxious, I wonder? Then it hits me. Fall leads to Winter, bringing with it not only a shift in the weather, but the “holidays,” and the impending change in family patterns. The holidays, for all their merriment and tradition, are incredibly stressful for many of us. All of a sudden expectations change. Families interact more frequently and tensions and los
The Apostle James is clear; we are not to be fighting and quarreling. We are not to be stuck in trying to get what we want, coercing others into submitting to our point of view or will. Yet, fighting fair seems to be built upon the premise that we will fight; we just must follow some rules for how to fight fairly. But “fighting” and being “fair” about it are generally mutually exclusive.
Simply put, Karen was tired. She had lost hope that Darin would change. She had lost hope that he would become interested in her life. She wanted someone who would not only care about her life, but would champion her desires and goals. She didn’t want to beg him to read the books on improving their communication. She wanted him to seek out those books on his own and take initiative to change.