Thursday, April 02, 2015
Seeking the ability to clearly and effectively name the “energy in motion” will be helpful in all aspects of your life.
Tuesday, March 17, 2015
Marriage counselor Dr. David Hawkins shares some of the payoffs of active listening and steps that we can take that lead the way to silencing our inner voices so that we can cultivate good listening skills.
Tuesday, February 03, 2015
It is difficult to change. Now of course that is not news to you. Facing your faults, honestly, is not only frightening, but very challenging. We have practiced our behaviors, and our behavior faults, for a long time. These behaviors come easily and naturally to us. It should come as no surprise then that changing entrenched character patterns is tough, tough work.
Monday, December 15, 2014
If you could ensure that you never had another argument, would that interest you? At first glance you might say, ‘Of course. Who wants to argue?’ Some people actually are argumentative. This is a character trait that is wired into them, and unwiring it from your personality may be more difficult than you think.
Tuesday, December 09, 2014
Maintaining healthy connections is harder than you might think. A deep sigh, a wrinkled brow, even a short, sarcastic comment are enough to break an emotional connection to your mate. A hostile glance there, and sniping barb here, and you more than enough fuel to blow apart a relationship.
Monday, November 17, 2014
Are you prepared for the next storm that may already be brewing between you and your mate? Do you have any idea what it might be and how it might present itself? Most important, are you ready for it? Many would say we should focus only on the problems of today. After all, didn’t Jesus even say that today has enough problems of its own and we need not worry about tomorrow?
Tuesday, November 04, 2014
I kissed my wife goodbye this morning. No, not for good. Only for the day. But, the gesture was noticed by her. My wife, Christie, made special mention of my actions earlier this evening. “I’ve noticed you taking the recycling out and that you called to wish me a good day,” she said with a big smile. “I appreciate you calling me, even if I don’t return your call.”
Tuesday, September 30, 2014
Stan and Jessie were a young couple seeking services from us at The Marriage Recovery Center. Both 28 years old, and only married three years, they were already in trouble. “We bicker all the time,” Jessie said, her face drawn and her words spoken slowly, barely covering her sadness. Stan sat at the end of the couch, looking at her.
Monday, September 22, 2014
It was yet another tearful farewell to a couple leaving The Marriage Recovery Center. While it was a joyful parting, their entry into work at the Center was not nearly as gentle and compassionate. Lily and Jerry had come to the Center days earlier, “hours away from divorce.” Their detached, hostile attitude toward each other reflected the truth of that statement. Barely speaking, I could sense I had my work cut out for me.
Monday, September 08, 2014
“I can’t keep up with him,” Suzanne said anxiously. “He’s all over the place, doing this thing and that thing. I feel like I’m married to a Stairmaster.” “I’m not sure I understand Suzanne,” I said. She and her husband of 15 years, Douglas, had come to The Marriage Recovery Center in a state of crisis. “It’s hard to describe,” she said. “He’s busy with a lot of different projects and I feel like I’m one more thing on his checklist...